When one or both partners in a relationship carry a history of attachment trauma, everyday interactions can sometimes feel like emotional minefields. Past wounds—whether from neglect, loss, abuse, or inconsistent caregiving—can resurface in the form of heightened sensitivity, withdrawal, or conflict. What begins as a small disagreement can quickly escalate, not because of the present moment alone, but because it touches on deep, unhealed hurts.   In my work with couples, I he

It’s that time of the year again. The city is covered in hues of red and pink and wall to wall chocolates as we prepare for Valentine’s Day, or Love Day, as I like to call it.  Yes – I am cheesy. Valentine’s Day evokes mixed feelings, though. Some see it as an opportunity to give their loved-ones swanky gifts or have an excuse to splurge on an expensive meal. Others despise the capitalistic, consumeristic nature of the holiday and choose to boycott it. I think we can find so

Your Friendly Neighbourhood Therapist’s Guide to Abolishing New Year’s Resolutions. Happy 2024! Another year behind us. One of the most commonly asked questions at this time of the year is “What is your New Year’s resolution?” A New Years’ resolution is meant to signify a fresh start with a new drive to achieve a certain goal or make meaningful change. Resolutions can help to set the intention for the year ahead and encourage reflection of one’s purpose in life. However, it c

It is my belief that the greatest gift of humankind is being able to creates bonds. There is no greater joy than the joy you feel when you are deeply connected to another person. And, in the same vein, there is no greater pain than the pain of feeling disconnected from an important figure in your life. As I have supported people in their pain I have found that the wounds that cut the deepest and take the longest to heal are those formed by attachment injuries, or injuries by

What is trauma? I define trauma as anything that has had a significantly negative impact on your life. When something is too big, or it happens too fast for your brain and body to make sense of, it can have a traumatic impact on you. The meaning you give to the traumatic event also determines how significantly it will impact you, which is why two people could experience the same event but have two completely different reactions to it. Let’s consider a car accident, for instan

What is relationship counselling? Relationship counselling is the therapeutic process of gaining a deeper understanding of your relationship and resolving conflicts within it. You explore what makes it work, what hurts it, and how to improve it. Couples typically choose to start counselling when there is something that isn’t working in their relationship and counselling is seen as the last resort before calling quits. Although this is common, you don’t have to be at the brink

Anger’s got a bad rep. It’s an emotion not a lot of people like to admit they feel. I mean, it makes sense. Anger often brings out the worst parts of us and pushes people away. It can come out as irritability, annoyance or even rage. Very few people can say that they had a pleasant experience with someone that was expressing their anger at them. Yet, it is an essential emotion like all the rest. It is valid like all other emotions are valid, and it has a purpose like all othe